Sunday, November 23, 2008

Quinn 's Again Awake




Shakespeare, in describing purgatory in his play Hamlet said those who were in that place were, "Doom'd for a certain term to walk the night, and for the day confined to fast in fires, 'till the foul crimes done in [their] days of nature are burnt and purged away."  Perhaps the insane sleepless nights are a kind of purgatory which all parents must suffer through in order to have the joys of children.  (God's way of making sure you are really serious about this parenting business.)

We discovered shortly before we left the hospital that Quinn has a cleft pallate.  Not knowing much about this, a specialist came to visit us to explain what that meant and what that will mean for Quinn as he grows up.  Apparently, this is one of the most common forms of birth defects about 1 in every 600 babies has it.  What it means is that there is a hole in Quinn's pallet (roof of his mouth) which connects his nose to his mouth.  

It means he cannot nurse like a normal child from the breast; however, is not life-threatning and has a 75% chance of being resolved with a surgery when Quinn is between 6-9 months.  It may cause some speech and dental problems later on, but for now we are just happy to have a healthy baby boy.  Right now the problem is nutritional.  Quinn just needs nutrients and were he to continue to attempt to do this at the breast he would likely use more energy in the attempt than get the nutrients he needs.  The solution is apparently to use a special "Pigeon" nipple that costs about $22 a piece.

Since Mer and I believe strongly in the necessity of breast milk but we must bottle feed Quinn we have been doing a lot of research into breast pumps.  The problem of breast pumps is that they consume a lot of time.  One has to spend a half an hour or more pumping, then another half an hour or more feeding the child  (not to mention the regular cleaning of all the valves and do-hickeys that come with it).  Effectively this more than doubles the amount of time that is required just to sustain the nutritional needs of this baby (not to mention all the diaper changing, etc. that just is part of having a baby to begin with.)  When this feeding is done every two hours you can begin to see why the reference to sleepless purgatory seems more appropriate.  Mer deserves a gold star for her efforts.  She is the best and most devoted mommy.  

(The resources of time and personnel are finite so thus we are in search of the ideal method [optimization routine] to maximize that precious comodity there is all too often little of... sleep!)


8 comments:

moranews said...

Congrats, guys! He is so handsome. If I could recommend a pump, I used the Medela brand and was done in 10 minutes. I have used mine for three kids all the while working full time. It's a bit expensive, but worth every penny! Congrats again!

Beck said...

I agree. Medela is the best pump. Again, expensive, but worth it. But it is so nice to see some pictures of Quinn. Hang in there. If you need anything let us know. And congrats once again!

jill said...

good luck with all of that and the lack of sleep!! The lady that lives in between my parents and mer's parents is a lactation specialist...she would hook you guys up with ideas I'll bet.

Chelsea said...

I love his cute carseat picture! He looks like such a great little baby!! Our friends had their surgery on their baby's mouth about 6 months ago, and it was a huge success!

Nicole Ekberg said...

Wow! Good luck guys. Thinking of you. xoxo, Niki

Anonymous said...

I'm getting my medela pump from www.addalittlelove.com Their prices are the cheapest I've found and everything comes new in the box. They have all the accessories, too.

Chelsea said...

Sorry to hear about the cleft palate, but you guys are the right parents to handle the challenge! Kudos to you for continuing to breastfeed - I know pumping is not fun but it will be worth it in the long run.

Starpix said...

congratulations, quinn is goregous (love the name)...you guys did a great job!